Honouring our differences on the gender spectrum

Tell us what you are doing in your everyday life to stay green. Email asiple@postmedia.com. Photo by Twyla Siple / Interlake Publishing

Share Adjust Comment Print

I am a really big fan of being different. I honour myself for not being a typical female.

In the movie, Amelie, a very strange girl meets a very strange boy and they fall in love. Along the way, they discover all the weird and find themselves born along a string of synchronicities that inevitably continue to bring them together.

While learning about each other, they discover what makes them unique.

Coincidence and synchronicity are both defined as “striking occurrences of two or more events at one time”. The difference is that coincidence is perceived as chance or luck while synchronicity implies the presence of a deeper intelligence at work.

Is it possible that the earth is a living being as much as we are?

Is it possible that we are as much a part of this planet as the trees, water and air that we breathe? And maybe, just maybe, the planet needs to have a spectrum of genders.

We as humans have so many striking differences, yet as much as we like to disagree with one another, we need each other. Especially men and women.

An article I read by Psychology Today states that while it’s no secret that boys and girls are different, the differences between genders extend beyond what the eye can see.

Male brains use almost seven times more gray matter for activity while female brains utilize nearly ten times more white matter. The gray matter areas of the brain are localized, information- and action-processing center areas of the brain. This can translate to the kind of tunnel vision you may notice your dad, son or husband lapse into when they are doing something.

Once they are deeply engaged in a task or game, they may not demonstrate much sensitivity to other people or their surroundings.

White matter is the networking grid that connects the brain’s gray matter and other processing centers with one another. This is the profound brain-processing difference that is probably the reason you may have noticed that girls tend to more quickly transition between tasks than boys do. The gray-white matter difference may explain why. In adulthood, females are great multi-taskers, while men excel in highly task-focused projects.

So, when male-bodied humans are sensitive and talkative about their feelings, north American culture doesn’t seem to allow this as fit for the ‘boy’ way of doing things. And when female-bodied humans tend towards doing things ‘only boys’ should do, in the past, they became just as ostracized.

As a woman in our modern age, I have to say I am proud to be a Canadian. Some parts of the world still demean humanity by painting an invisible line and telling us what we can and cannot wear due to our gender, while the Canadian government finally legalized something people were once murdered for.

On July 20, 2005, Canada became the first country outside Europe and the fourth country in the world to legalize same-sex marriage nationwide after the enactment of the Civil Marriage Act. Same-sex adoption has also been legal in all provinces and territories under varying rules.

As with all gender differences, no one way of doing things is better or worse.

So, for the sake of staying heart centred, love yourself first, understand yourself and remember, you are perfect just the way you are, no matter where you fall on the spectrum.

And if you feel like a strange character from a foreign film? Honour it, because your person will love you just the way you are, whether you found them yet or not.